Just one of those dayz…

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The title says it all.  Just one of those days.  Many of my friends may remember this old Monica song:

Just one of them days
That a girl goes through
When I’m angry inside
Don’t want to take it out on you
Just one of them days
Don’t take it personal

The girls have just been overly whiny and demanding lately.  We are not sure what is going on or if this a taste of what three girls with PMS will look like in our future.  Don’t get it wrong, the picture above is in no way promoting child labor.  But, after Avery broke an entire bottle of OPI RED nail polish on our master bathroom floor I knew the day was not off to a good start.  I typically don’t freak out over things like this.  I have way too much patience for that and know things just happen.  I was about to implode and they were sort of laughing which even made it worse.  Grab a toothbrush girls and get scrubbing!  Of course, this lasted maybe five minutes and it took me more than an hour to turn my bathroom floor back into somewhat normal when it was a crime scene!

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I tried everything!  Nail polish remover to baking soda to Clorox to pumice stones to scrub it out!  Just me and a toothbrush and nail polish remover for more than an hour.

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Secondly, you know this wonderful idea that I had to get a puppy?  Well, she I like a fourth child right now.  The adorable-ness of these dogs is what makes it worth it, but seriously, come on!!!

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The girls like to wake up at night and so does the puppy.  She has an excuse.  She is a puppy.  They are almost five!!!!  I find myself resorting to old parenting ways of just putting Miss Murphy in bed with us so I can sleep a few hours.  Then I remember that does not help in the future. The part that does not make me happy is the poop.  “MOOOOOOMMMM Murphy pooped in Emily’s room AGAIN.”  If you are a Mom, poop is not really a big deal.  At least it never was to me and I had lots of poop going on in this house.  But, I will say throw up on all accords I absolutely despise.

WARNING!!! This photo is not for the weak stomached. Yep, that is MASSIVE throw up from our eight year old Boxer, who we took to the pet ER last week.  I literally thought she was dying.  She does have some issues to investigate, but put it on the list right?

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Things can always be worse and in this house they have been in the past!  But this day just really had me spinning and my blood pressure out the roof.

So, if any parents out there have tips on the following please help a sister out!

  • puppy training
  • attitude adjustments – This could actual be good for me and my hubby as well as the kids 🙂
  • why dogs eat EVERYTHING!
  • why kids don’t want to eat certain things!
  • why we still can’t get a full night sleep in five years?
  • why somehow I still find all of this somewhat humorous
  • why I still have not checked myself into some type of retreat for crazy people
Prayers for a new day because God always makes the sun come up tomorrow!!!
Love,
Mom on the Edge

Christmas Magic

GIrls with Santa 2015

I can’t believe yet another holiday with this trio has come and gone with a blink of an eye.  We celebrated our fifth Christmas.  Five beautiful Christmas’ with these babies.  Boy, I remember our first Christmas.  Avery and Emily had tubes put in their ears at 10 months so right before Christmas.  We had spent eight miserable weeks with babies with constant ear infections.  At that point, I am not even sure I remember sleeping at all.  Come to think of it…yep…not much sleep really now either.

I told myself I would start early this year on shopping and planning in case the dreaded seasonal sickness hit us again as it always does each year.  I am blessed that the Type A in me went with my gut.  We spent two weeks dealing with pneumonia with all three girls.  I mean really? Pneumonia?  Last year it was the Flu.  Year before it was RSV.  Year before it was Upper Respiratory and Ear Infections.  I swear, this next holiday season we are spending eight weeks in the Bahamas!

The girls actually enjoyed Santa this year.  We had no crazy tears this year even though those pics are some of the best in our vault to date. They talked to Santa all about what they wanted for Christmas.  Go figure that it was not one of the things I had yet to purchase.  Thank God for Amazon Prime!  Amazon Prime and I are in a pretty exclusive relationship.  We can communicate any hour of the night or day and it is extremely prompt on ending up on my doorstep within two days.  Do not think we will break up anytime soon!

We shopped for foster children for our second season this year.  The girls really enjoy it.  We tell them a little about each child and give them each the job of picking out what that child would want for Christmas.  We love making this part of our giving season so they understand some day that it is truly an honor and privilege to do for others.

Look at these sweet girls on Christmas morning!  They are really spoiled beyond their heart’s desires because Santa and their grandparents and aunt and uncles.  Daddy was reading letters that Santa wrote each of the girls.  Bryan is really a little word smith when it comes to these projects.  From new babies and dolls to strollers and pretend play and puzzles and games and crafts…you name it…it is here.  Yet, are my kiddos the only ones two days after Christmas that say, “What are we doing today?”

The holidays really are so much more meaningful with these three.  As we look into the New Year, we pray for health and happiness for all of our friends and family.  Emily will be having a surgery the first part of January so we graciously asked for prayers.  Tonsils gone and a third set of tubes!  She has really been struggling hearing and actually close to failed her last hearing exam in one ear so we pray this is a solution that will make her feel so much better…and listen to things at a much,much lower volume!!!

Happiest New Year!

Blessings,

The Coys

 

 

“In All Things…Give Thanks”

This year, our little family decided to ring in the season with Thanksgiving cards.  When our world is in such crisis and we all know people hurting in our communities and around the world, it is so important to value what we have right here at home.  I know I am not the only mother that may wake up like Mary Poppins and end the day being Cruela Deville.  There are days that are more ragged than others, go smoother than others and there are days that are just knock dead drag out  days from you know where!  Lately, I have tried to stop more and stare at the girls when they sleep, hone in when they are loving one another when I am not looking, cherishing more of the moments that may not even make sense when they are congested with screams and shrills…fighting and yelling…tears over who knows what.  I am leaning in and loving it all.

I have not posted in a while so I have some catching up to do!  There is no place like home with these little Dorothys.  Yes, they were all Dorothy.  Emily decided she was the first to be Dorothy.  The selling point was definitely Toto in the basket and the red glittery shoes.  The other two quickly changed from mermaids to Dorothy, no questions asked.  Girls and accessories.  Even at four, it is clearly apparent that fashion is important.

Dorothy Halloween 2015Five minutes before we walked out the door to Trick-Or-Treat, Emily decided she wanted to be her own little person with her own ideas and quickly turned into Elsa.  The good thing about not worrying about the costumes is that we have tons of them to choose from.  No harm no foul and everyone was happy!  “Let is Go” Right?

The girls are rockin’ Pre-K!  They love their teachers and they are learning so many amazing things.  The big thing they love is being “the line leader.”  Recently, they all had an opportunity to do what they call “ME Day.”  Their teachers send home a special bag and they get to fill it with what they want to show their class.  What many may see as a simple project for their kids was taken very seriously to mine!  The girls do not get too many opportunities at home to take a hold of something that is just individually “THEIRS.”  A sister is always there to partake.  It was heartwarming to them so proud to show off their favorite things to their classmates.  To be just Avery….Camdyn…Emily.

They all told me, “Mom, I don’t need any help with my homework.”  I wish they did need help, because when they get older and ask for help on that math homework they are going to be up a creek!

Mercy NICU Wall of HOPE

Last night, we were honored to be chosen for the girls to be photographed and placed on the Mercy NICU Wall of Hope.  Through the March of Dimes, this special project hopes to inspire the hundreds of parents who walk through those unchartered doors of the NICU with so much fear of the unknown with their sick babies.  Our time in the NICU was scary, but we had amazing faith and a wonderful medical team.  Seeing our girls next to other success stories was really emotional.  For the first time in a long time, visiting the NICU was a happy moment in my life.  I had visited in the past, but still the smell of the medical soap, the sounds of the monitors, the big double doors that open and many other reasons really kept me from putting the experience behind me for many reasons.  This was sort of a break through for me that spoke to me in volumes about how far we have come in our journey.  The girls are such miracles that it is hard to imagine that moment in life almost five years ago.  But, it happened and it is always a part of us and now in happy and promising way!

Mercy NICU Reception with Girls

 

So to wrap up for this post, we wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving and many blessings.  The girls always remind me that giving does not have to be done in big magnitudes or big financial amounts to make an impact or difference in someone’s life.  I challenge each of you to do an unselfish act of kindness for someone you love…or someone you know that needs love.

“In all things..give Thanks.” 1 Thess. 5:18

Love always,

The Coys

Thursdays with a Trip: Emily’s Day

Emily at Zoo with Mom

Well, here we are again.  Another Thursdays with a Trip edition and this time its with Emily Ray.  Again, I have told the girls they can pick what they wanna do with me within reason.  After Avery came home last week from the zoo, and bragging about it might I add, where do you think Emmie wanted to go?  Yep, we were off to the zoo.  I wasn’t exactly thrilled but I saw it coming.  I had it mapped out this time!  She picked pretty much the same path as Avery so I knew how to stay focused and out of the crowds and heat for as long as we could.

The sea-lion show was first.  As you see in this picture above she picked out a stuffed sea-lion.  Like we don’t enough stuffed animals as it is, I just could not refuse that face when she picked it out.  The magical moment of that was that when I asked her to pick one she responded with, “Well, what about Avery and Camdyn?”  My heart was so happy that considered them first.  Not going to lie, but as much as I wish this was the case with them all the time, don’t get it fooled.  We are not perfect! We are just like all other families and siblings.  We do love to praise them when they shine through and this was one of those moments.  That being said, Em picked out sea lions for each sister and we enjoyed the show.  She constantly wanted to know if I was doing the same exact thing with her as I did with Avery so she wouldn’t feel like she was missing out on anything.

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Emily is a really funny girl.  She has the quirkiest sense of humor.  Her Daddy and I are both a little strange in humor ourselves so it isn’t surprising.  She has a very creative imagination.  She used to really like to do things on her own and keep to herself. Lately, she has turned into my little show stopper in terms of putting on made up dances and singing shows.  Her Daddy has always called her “Bug” or “Emmie Bug.”  She recently told us she doesn’t like to be called Bug.  Emmie Bug was okay or Tink (which we always thought she was like a little Tinkerbell.)   Already establishing her identity!

Emily looking over fence at zooSince birth, Emily has always been a little fighter.  We also remind her we called her Little Hornet when we first brought her home because that little girl knew how to get so mad so quickly!  My little 2 pound girl is anything of the sorts anymore.  Still a fighter by nature, but a fashionista at heart.  At our house if you see dress up clothes ALL OVER THE PLACE they usually are created by her.  Once they end up back in her room it looks like the floor of a dressing room and nothing that she tried worked!  She has a very creative style that we do have to reel in sometimes when in public but I sure love her charisma.

And…you will never see such a tiny thing put down pizza like she does!  It’s not always great on my waistline, but they love Hideaway pizza.  I mean, who doesn’t?  I don’t weigh 30 pounds though either.

Emily at Hideaway

All in all we had a great day!  It is sure fun to look forward to and its fun to hear them tell stories about their day with me to their sisters and friends at school!  One of the best parts was her running to Avery and Camdyn and telling them she missed them.  Camdyn and Avery had pictures to share they drew for her.  It was a good day 🙂  Those are the moments that make the hair raising, screaming, fighting, tantrums, tears etc…worth every minute of it.  Hopefully, something we teach them is catching on.

Until next Thursday with my Camdyn girl.  I will have to think of something new and exciting about the zoo to tell everyone.  I don’t doubt she already has her mind made up.  I am praying for rain.

Blessings,

Momma to happy and silly little girls

Thursdays with a Trip: Avery’s adventure

Avery zoo 2015

This summer, I am working on a new idea for our ever so delightful threesome.  As any mother knows, it is difficult once you add another child, or two or three or four, to the mix to spend quality time with each individually.  I never really had that alone time with one baby to begin with, so spending individual time with each of my girls is something I really crave.  As blessed as this gift is having triplets I always really missed the opportunity to hold each of them for an extended period of time without one of the others screaming or needing something.  I never had the chance to really stare at them while they were sleeping, because they NEVER DID.  All those first with a newborn you cherish were so crazy and such a blur that I still really need that time with my girls and I think they need it too.

On Thursdays, I will be adventuring with one of the girls to wherever (within reason) they want to go with just ME.  May seem silly to some, but it really is a joy to take a breath and focus on one of them at a time.  You can imagine the process of choosing who goes first right?  I need to post Camdyn’s day which was the week before just by chance…So it was between Emily and Avery.  I made Daddy do this one and they drew names.  Ironically, there were no tears and Emily and Camdyn went to their summer session at their school with smiles and had a great day.

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Avery chose the zoo…with everyone else in the city!  Here we are with our little selfie shot!  She grabbed my hand and my heart already knew it would be a great day.  She instantly picked the sea-lion show, stingray bay and the children’s area to play in the streams and spray grounds.  Avery is typically pretty loud and lately been full of a lot of sass.  As we walked hand in hand, I felt somewhat naked or like I was missing something the whole time.  Oh ya, the other two! Surprisingly, she wanted to hold my hand almost the entire time which was wonderful.  We sat at the sea-lion show and she smiled and was sometimes so quiet that I had to ask her if she was okay.  I began to realize that maybe she is loud to make a point or even to fight her way in the conversation battle for my attention versus her sisters.

Avery with Stingrays

Oddly, I felt a tad more anxious without the girls because I think I was so concerned with pleasing her and making sure she was happy.  We laughed and took our time together.  Then after we left she demanded a Happy Meal for lunch. Shocker!  We went to pick up her sisters.  Emily was so sweet and made Avery a picture.  But, don’t be fooled we were back to our picking on each other ways the minute we stepped into the car.  I just took a deep breath and realized its back to the grind!  I enjoyed our day so much and I am looking forward to another one.  I hope to continue this tradition with them in the future so I intently focus on each girl as an individual. Many people ask me if they are different in their ways.  It’s a little silly because children that are not born on the same day or different right?  I do understand the question though.  They do share some pretty neat DNA.

We teach the girls how lucky they are to be who they are and how they came into this world so miraculously.  It is only human nature to crave for a parent to know who they are in this world, “By Myself.”  Which is what the girls always say. (the By Myself part :)).  Just like Av peaking through this butterfly, the trips all have different colors and different wings that will take them different places in the world.  I am just trying to hold onto what I can before they want to fly off.  We will blink and it we will be there. So I am told by every mother in the world.

Avery with Stingrays

And then they were….FOUR

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The past two years have flown by as we have watched these precious girls grow up before our eyes.  The first two years didn’t go by as fast. Haha.  I have many people ask me what is harder, when they were babies or now.  I actually think that now is when the real work begins.  The lessons, the guidance, the discipline, and the strides and milestones.  We focused so much on their actual physical growth for so long since they were so tiny at birth.  Now, we see these little girls who baffle us with their words and make us laugh with their actions.  I will have to also admit, they make us tear our hair out at times too.

As we move forward into these next years, I like any parent, just wants their babies to be happy.  I want the girls to love each other and love themselves, but I know that realistically those probably will all have their off days too.   In a world full of messages about how to dress, how to act and what to do, I pray I have the wisdom to instill values that are consistent to helping have a happy heart to lead them down a great path in life.

Birthday Girls with Candle

But, let’s face it.  At four, we care about playing dress up, watching cartoons, crafting, going to dance and gymnastics and seeing friends.  We also care about picking on each other and fighting relentlessly for our attention.   So, in the midst of Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood and Calliou, I am taking lessons from ole’ Mister Rogers and Calliou’s Mommy and Daddy, who ALWAYS WEAR THE SAME CLOTHES (They must have taken notes from other stay-at-home parents), so I know how to deliver and lay down the law.  Ya right!  I think I am successful at getting their actual attention half the time but I am working on pulling up my exhausted boot straps and getting back on the horse to not let these princesses dominate the castle.

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They are funny.  Say the darndest things.  Amazing cuddlers.  Kind hearts.  Still don’t care to sleep much.  Don’t turn down a treat.  Most definitely have their Daddy’s humor and maybe Mommy’s weirdness…and never meet a stranger (which we will have to work on stranger danger more because they just love people…period…). But most of all…they are ALL MINE.  What I would have given to see into my future years ago to witness this journey unfold.  Who knows if I would have ran in the other direction instead of choosing baptism by fire.  As I have learned and stated before, God always is never wrong.  He never makes a mistake.  My four-year-olds are the most precious gift this gal could ask for and I hope they continue to be a gift to this world.

Avery,Camdyn and Emily – You provide what I never knew I needed in my life until you came along.  You make me feel like I truly did something magical and right with my life.  You force me to be young, strong and stay on my toes.  You make me love harder, pray more steadfast, and have changed my need to have everything perfect the first time.  My imperfect life was made perfect the moment you were conceived.  I am so grateful for you crazy four-year-olds!

Avery       Camdyn  Emily